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" It's no wonder the narcissistic mother will always have a place in literature: she's a freak of nature. "
Koren Zailckas
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" In my early to mid-20s, a fear of confrontation made it difficult for me to end relationships in a mature or even quasi-sane way. Instead, I would hang on resentfully, praying that my doomed beau would end things first and spare me the displeasure. To add hindrance to hang-up, the men I chose were usually just as stoic as I was. "
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