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All Quotes by author - Meghan O'Rourke
" A death from a long illness is very different from a sudden death. It gives you time to say goodbye and time to adjust to the idea that the beloved will not be with you anymore. "
Time
Say
Long
" All love stories are tales of beginnings. When we talk about falling in love, we go to the beginning, to pinpoint the moment of freefall. "
Moment
Falling In Love
Love
" A mother, after all, is your entry into the world. She is the shell in which you divide and become a life. Waking up in a world without her is like waking up in a world without sky: unimaginable. "
Life
Mother
She
" A mother is beyond any notion of a beginning. That's what makes her a mother. "
Her
Makes
Mother
" And after my mother's death I became more open to and empathetic about other people's struggles and losses. "
People
Struggles
Death
" But there is a discomfort that surrounds grief. It makes even the most well-intentioned people unsure of what to say. And so many of the freshly bereaved end up feeling even more alone. "
End
Say
People
" But when my mother died, I found that I did not believe that she was gone. "
She
Believe
Did
" Grief is a bad moon, a sleeper wave. It's like having an inner combatant, a saboteur who, at the slightest change in the sunlight, or at the first notes of a jingle for a dog food commercial, will flick the memory switch, bringing tears to your eyes. "
Change
Dog
Memory
" Grief is at once a public and a private experience. One's inner, inexpressible disruption cannot be fully realized in one's public persona. "
Experience
Disruption
Grief
" Grief is characterized much more by waves of feeling that lessen and reoccur, it's less like stages and more like different states of feeling. "
Much
Like
More
" I am the indoctrinated child of two lapsed Irish Catholics. Which is to say: I am not religious. "
I Am
Child
Religious
" I believe in the importance of individuality, but in the midst of grief I also find myself wanting connection - wanting to be reminded that the sadness I feel is not just mine but ours. "
Feel
Sadness
Myself
" I envy my Jewish friends the ritual of saying kaddish - a ritual that seems perfectly conceived, with its built-in support group and its ceremonious designation of time each day devoted to remembering the lost person. "
Saying
Day
Support
" If the condition of grief is nearly universal, its transactions are exquisitely personal. "
Universal
Exquisitely
Grief
" I live to collect information, and I am also a perfectionist. "
I Am
Information
Live
" I'm not much like my mother; that role falls to my brothers, who have more of her blithe and freewheeling spirit. "
Like
Role
Spirit
" I think about my mother every day. But usually the thoughts are fleeting - she crosses my mind like a spring cardinal that flies past the edge of your eye: startling, luminous, lovely... gone. "
Thoughts
Day
Mother
" It's all too easy when talking about female gymnasts to fall into the trap of infantilizing them, spending more time worrying more about female vulnerability than we do celebrating female strength. "
Strength
Fall
Easy
" I wasn't prepared for the fact that grief is so unpredictable. It wasn't just sadness, and it wasn't linear. Somehow I'd thought that the first days would be the worst and then it would get steadily better - like getting over the flu. That's not how it was. "
Grief
Better
Worst
" Like my mother before me, I have always been a good speller. "
Mother
Me
Like
" Loss doesn't feel redeemable. But for me one consoling aspect is the recognition that, in this at least, none of us is different from anyone else: We all lose loved ones; we all face our own death. "
Loss
Recognition
Me
" Loss is so paradoxical: It is at once enormous and tiny. "
Loss
Once
Paradoxical
" Many Americans don't mourn in public anymore - we don't wear black, we don't beat our chests and wail. "
Beat
Wear
Black
" My mother died of metastatic colorectal cancer shortly before three P.M. on Christmas Day of 2008. I don't know the exact time of her death, because none of us thought to look at a clock for a while after she stopped breathing. "
Day
Mother
Know
" My mother never liked Mother's Day. She thought it was a fake holiday dreamed up by Hallmark to commodify deep sentiments that couldn't be expressed with a card. "
Deep
Holiday
She
" My theory is this: Women falter when they're called on to be highly self-conscious about their talents. Not when they're called on to enact them. "
Women
Self-Conscious
Talents
" My whole life, I had been taught to read and study, to seek understanding in knowledge of history, of cultures. "
History
Understanding
Life
" Nothing prepared me for the loss of my mother. Even knowing that she would die did not prepare me. "
Die
Loss
She
" One of the ideas I've clung to most of my life is that if I just try hard enough it will work out. "
Try
My Life
Life
" One word I had throughout the first year and a half of my mother's death was 'unmoored.' I felt that I had no anchor, that I had no home in the world. "
Home
Mother
World
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