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" My mother never liked Mother's Day. She thought it was a fake holiday dreamed up by Hallmark to commodify deep sentiments that couldn't be expressed with a card. "

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" To mourn is to wonder at the strangeness that grief is not written all over your face in bruised hieroglyphics. And it's also to feel, quite powerfully, that you're not allowed to descend into the deepest fathom of your grief - that to do so would be taboo somehow. "

Meghan O'Rourke

Wonder

Face

Feel

" When my mother was sick, I found myself needing to put down in my journals all sorts of things - to try to understand them, and, I think, to try to remember them. "

" It's all too easy when talking about female gymnasts to fall into the trap of infantilizing them, spending more time worrying more about female vulnerability than we do celebrating female strength. "

" My mother died of metastatic colorectal cancer shortly before three P.M. on Christmas Day of 2008. I don't know the exact time of her death, because none of us thought to look at a clock for a while after she stopped breathing. "

" My theory is this: Women falter when they're called on to be highly self-conscious about their talents. Not when they're called on to enact them. "

" Grief is characterized much more by waves of feeling that lessen and reoccur, it's less like stages and more like different states of feeling. "

Meghan O'Rourke

Much

" A mother is beyond any notion of a beginning. That's what makes her a mother. "

" I wasn't prepared for the fact that grief is so unpredictable. It wasn't just sadness, and it wasn't linear. Somehow I'd thought that the first days would be the worst and then it would get steadily better - like getting over the flu. That's not how it was. "

" My whole life, I had been taught to read and study, to seek understanding in knowledge of history, of cultures. "

" Like my mother before me, I have always been a good speller. "

Meghan O'Rourke

Mother

" And after my mother's death I became more open to and empathetic about other people's struggles and losses. "

" I'm not much like my mother; that role falls to my brothers, who have more of her blithe and freewheeling spirit. "

Meghan O'Rourke

Role

Spirit

" I am the indoctrinated child of two lapsed Irish Catholics. Which is to say: I am not religious. "

" Grief is at once a public and a private experience. One's inner, inexpressible disruption cannot be fully realized in one's public persona. "

" If the condition of grief is nearly universal, its transactions are exquisitely personal. "

" But when my mother died, I found that I did not believe that she was gone. "

" I think about my mother every day. But usually the thoughts are fleeting - she crosses my mind like a spring cardinal that flies past the edge of your eye: startling, luminous, lovely... gone. "

" I believe in the importance of individuality, but in the midst of grief I also find myself wanting connection - wanting to be reminded that the sadness I feel is not just mine but ours. "

" There is always tension in women's gymnastics between athleticism, grace, performance, and eros. "

" Loss doesn't feel redeemable. But for me one consoling aspect is the recognition that, in this at least, none of us is different from anyone else: We all lose loved ones; we all face our own death. "

Meghan O'Rourke

Loss

Recognition

" This is part of the complexity of grief: A piece of you recognizes it is an extreme state, an altered state, yet a large part of you is entirely subject to its demands. "

" Television has never known what to do with grief, which resists narrative: the dramas of grief are largely internal - for the bereaved, it is a chaotic, intense, episodic period, but the chaos is by and large subterranean, and easily appears static to the friendly onlooker who has absorbed the fact of loss and moved on. "

" I envy my Jewish friends the ritual of saying kaddish - a ritual that seems perfectly conceived, with its built-in support group and its ceremonious designation of time each day devoted to remembering the lost person. "

" Many Americans don't mourn in public anymore - we don't wear black, we don't beat our chests and wail. "

" But there is a discomfort that surrounds grief. It makes even the most well-intentioned people unsure of what to say. And so many of the freshly bereaved end up feeling even more alone. "

" Nothing prepared me for the loss of my mother. Even knowing that she would die did not prepare me. "

" A mother, after all, is your entry into the world. She is the shell in which you divide and become a life. Waking up in a world without her is like waking up in a world without sky: unimaginable. "

" What's endlessly complicated in thinking about women's gymnastics is the way that vulnerability and power are threaded through the sport. "

" One of the ideas I've clung to most of my life is that if I just try hard enough it will work out. "

" A death from a long illness is very different from a sudden death. It gives you time to say goodbye and time to adjust to the idea that the beloved will not be with you anymore. "