Get QuoteDark Inspirational Quotes App

" The uncertainty of parenting can bring up feelings in us that range from frustration to terror. "

Related Quotes:

" Ironically, parenting is a shame and judgment minefield precisely because most of us are wading through uncertainty and self-doubt when it comes to raising our children. "

" We judge people in areas where we're vulnerable to shame, especially picking folks who are doing worse than we're doing. "

" Normally, when someone we love is turning away from a struggle, we self-protect by also turning away. That's definitely my first response. I think change is more likely to happen if both partners have common language and a shared lens to see problems. "

" Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It's the fear that we're not good enough. "

Not Good Enough

" We expect teachers to handle teenage pregnancy, substance abuse, and the failings of the family. Then we expect them to educate our children. "

" Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen. It's tough to do that when we're terrified about what people might see or think. "

" There is no innovation and creativity without failure. Period. "

" Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others. "

" What lingers from the parent's individual past, unresolved or incomplete, often becomes part of her or his irrational parenting. "

" I've learned that men and women who are living wholehearted lives really allow themselves to soften into joy and happiness. They allow themselves to experience it. "

" Every cliche about kids is true; they grow up so quickly, you blink and they're gone, and you have to spend the time with them now. But that's a joy. "

" One thing that I tell people all the time is, 'I'm not going to answer a call from you after nine o'clock at night or before nine o'clock in the morning unless it's an emergency.' "

" The more people have studied different methods of bringing up children the more they have come to the conclusion that what good mothers and fathers instinctively feel like doing for their babies is the best after all. "

" Parenting takes a lot of creativity, and I embrace it fully. "

Carrie-Anne Moss

" When you hold your baby in your arms the first time, and you think of all the things you can say and do to influence him, it's a tremendous responsibility. What you do with him can influence not only him, but everyone he meets and not for a day or a month or a year but for time and eternity. "

" Having a baby is a life-changer. It gives you a whole other perspective on why you wake up every day. "

" If we had paid no more attention to our plants than we have to our children, we would now be living in a jungle of weed. "

" Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do 'faith.' "

" My husband's a pediatrician, so he and I talk about parenting all the time. You can't raise children who have more shame resilience than you do. "

" When the people we love stop paying attention, trust begins to slip away and hurt starts seeping in. "

" Men walk this tightrope where any sign of weakness illicits shame, and so they're afraid to make themselves vulnerable for fear of looking weak. "

" I carry a small sheet of paper in my wallet that has written on it the names of people whose opinions of me matter. To be on that list, you have to love me for my strengths and struggles. "

" I was raised in a family where vulnerability was barely tolerated: no training wheels on our bicycles, no goggles in the pool, just get it done. And so I grew up not only with discomfort about my own vulnerability, I didn't care for it in other people either. "

" The secret to success, to parenting, to life, is to not count up the cost. Don't focus on all the steps it will take. Don't stare into the abyss at the giant leap it will take. That view will keep you from taking the next small step. "

" First and foremost, we need to be the adults we want our children to be. We should watch our own gossiping and anger. We should model the kindness we want to see. "

" Our need for certainty in an endeavor as uncertain as raising children makes explicit 'how-to-parent' strategies both seductive and dangerous. "

" The intention and outcome of vulnerability is trust, intimacy and connection. The outcome of oversharing is distrust, disconnection - and usually a little judgment. "

" Parenting is not giving your child everything they want. Parenting is not being your child's friend. Parenting is about preparing your child to be a useful and respectful person in society. "

" Parenting is no sport for perfectionists. "

" My father was a farmer and my mother was a farmer, but, my childhood was very good. I am very grateful for my childhood, because it was full of gladness and good humanity. "

Roberto Benigni